3 Reasons Why Freezing Your Eggs Could Help You Find Love Faster (really!)
By Amanda Vogel
If you’re immersed in the dating world, you might feel pressure to find that perfect connection with every Tinder or Bumble swipe or first (nerve-wracking) date. When you’re more than ready to settle down with an S.O., it’s easy to get antsy about starting a secure relationship ASAP. But that impatience can lead to time wasted on dates you know, deep down, are duds.
Turns out, single women who make the decision to freeze their eggs say the experience turned them into better daters. Peace of mind that your fertility is literally frozen in time means you can safely scroll Insta or Facebook without freaking over friends’ engagement pics and cheesy pregnancy posts.
Some women even find love IRL soon after the egg freezing process. A coincidence? Read on and judge for yourself. Here are three reasons why egg freezing could help you enjoy dating more and maybe even find love faster.
1) Takes the Pressure Off
When you know you want kids someday, you might be hyper-aware of time ticking as you and your eggs get older. That’s a disastrous way to date. Many women who have chosen to freeze their eggs say the process took the pressure off a ticking “biological clock.” In fact, it smashed the whole concept: “Biological clock” is an antiquated term anyway, considering modern women have more choices than ever about their fertility.
“The decision to freeze my eggs several years ago felt like a weight lifted off my shoulders,” says Ellie Bodner, a former Oprah producer in Chicago. “With my career as my focus, I wanted to be proactive about my future fertility so I could live life on my own terms. Taking control completely took that stress off.”
With the pressure dissolved, you might be more relaxed about making the right connection, which leads to smarter dating decisions overall. There’s no longer that tendency to mentally size up every new date for suitability as a life partner and parent. BTW, this often takes pressure off the guy, too, which enhances the dating experience for both of you.
2) Builds Confidence
Women who’ve gone through the egg-freezing journey say it boosted their confidence. Why? Taking control of your own fertility feels empowering. Plus, the short process requires you to put yourself first, even amid other responsibilities, such as career or education, a partner, friends, family, etc.
Your attention to self-care creates a new appreciation for what you need and want in life—including with your career and love relationships. The more empowered you feel, the better your ability to take on the world.
“I grew through my egg freezing journey, so now I feel more like an empowered adult,” says Rupika Anand, who traveled from her home in Louisville, Kentucky, after a divorce last year to undergo egg freezing at OVA. “After my egg freezing, I felt such a sense of accomplishment because I knew the experience would benefit me in the long run,” says the 31-year-old who just announced her engagement on Instagram. “When I no longer had a biological clock to live by, I could just sit back, relax and enjoy the whole dating process,” Anand says. “And just like that, when I wasn’t looking, I met the most amazing man!”
3) Puts You in the Now
You make the best decisions about love when you date in the here and now, not with your mind too far into the future. Knowing that your eggs are safely frozen and cared for by world-class experts allows you to approach dating with an open heart.
“Freezing my eggs cleared my mind of any outside pressure and allowed me to be in the here and now,” says Bodner. “Bringing the topic up with my now boyfriend, I remember a sigh of relief from both of us. He thought it was cool that a woman would be proactive, and I loved not letting my age take control of our relationship.” The couple just celebrated their one-year anniversary together.
“And I’m not the only one,” adds Bodner. “The same thing happened to a lot of my friends who froze their eggs. They found relationships soon after freezing!”
Could egg freezing be right for you? Contact OVA to inquire about our OVAVIEW assessment, which provides personalized feedback about your own best course of action.